Ever wondered how do people talk so much and make friends so easily? I could never do that and till today I can’t. I can talk to all type of people but never can/could make any long lasting bonding or friendships with anyone as such. All through my school and college life, I’ve had friends whom I could count on my finger tips. I could never really socialise and become the center of attraction, no, that was never my cup of tea.
I’ve had very few friends all throughout my education phase. Maybe I didn’t put in that much efforts to make friends or could never really relate to most of them. I valued my own time and myself more than being in a large group, gossiping, and feeling totally out of place. I couldn’t just be there for the sake of being there and making everyone happy and cheating myself with the thought that I’m happy being there among them.
Are those traits of an introvert? Maybe yes. And i have always repeatedly told myself that I’m happy with being me and didn’t have to succumb to others pressure to fit in and please them. I could never ever do that. And this has helped me a lot in understanding myself more. I just knew that I wasn’t made to fit in a crowd. I loved my solitude. Being with myself made me a happy person and that realization has helped me till today.
Now, at this age, 41 to be precise, it isn’t easy to go out there and make friends. This stage of life is more of bringing up one’s own kids, the kids need you more, being involved in their studies, helping them out with their own battles of teenage issues and family responsibilities to be taken care of. I don’t have the energy or time to actually roam around with friends or catch up with them, atleast in my case. And now at this age and stage of my life my peace of mind is ‘most’ important to me than some meaningless friendships and banters, gossips and show offs. I rather be alone than put up with all this nonsense. Those who want to stay can stay and the rest can leave. No promises and complaints from my side.
Life gets easier when you really know what you need exactly. And it also helps you to know where you stand in others lives. Less drama, more peace that’s my mantra now. It was always like this but now it’s only progressed along with age. And it’s bliss.
Its very easy to ape others and follow them blindly. Try being yourself and stop following the crowd. Stand out from the rest and see how many people really want to be your friends when you’re different from the rest. You might not find many who like and accept you that way and it’s not a big deal either but even if one person feels and thinks the same way as you then that’s enough. Atleast they too don’t believe in embracing and following the rest like blind.
And then I believe life is meant to travel alone. No one stays forever. People are like tourists . They come and go in your life . Mere visitors. We too shouldn’t have high expectations from anyone. Feel blessed if they hang on inspite of knowing all your ups and downs and ‘try’ to reciprocate the same. And the rest can go.
But always remember, your peace of mind and mental health is of utmost importance. No one should rob you of that. If anyone does so, cut them off immediately cause you don’t need that kind of drama in your life.
And also being alone and in one’s own company is always good. Peace of mind is guaranteed.