When was the last time you felt relaxed and your mind was devoid of thoughts – both wanted and unwanted. Don’t remember? Many of us have forgotten that kind of life.
It’s really funny when we look back. when we were kids we so badly wanted to grow up and enjoy adulthood. And now when we are adults…..nothing great about it and wish to go back to being kids.
Every stage in life has its ups and downs. When you’re a child you’re pampered by your parents and your tantrums are more or less accepted by them. Then you grow and start schooling. Then slowly the pressure of performing well seeps into you willingly or sometimes forced upon you by parents and relatives. Then you wish to be in college soon to lead that carefree life, to donn those fashionable clothes and impress your crush all thanks to karan Johar movies. And in this process your studies plummet down which comes along with the side effects of your pocket money cut short, your mobile phone not being charged by your ATM parents any more. With eerie silence and those murderous looks given to you by your folks and you in return go on hunger strikes and long evening walks to be alone and some time to be away from all. An escape from everything and sometimes even planning and plotting your own kidnapping. *devilish thoughts of teenagers*. But somehow life goes on and you sail through those hurdles.
Once all this crazy, hot-headed, rebellious teenage years of colleging or professional studies are done with you enter the phase of getting into the corporate world with your degrees and education. There too life doesn’t seem to be so kind. Struggles to prove yourself, competition, targets, meetings, gaining experiences and working your ass off in the hope of getting better opportunities so that you can jump from this organization to another and then another. A kind of frog life. Only jumping around without any clue of what exactly is going on in your life.
Once you’ve realised your aims and goals and that you are fairly and comfortably placed and you need to take a break or wanting to go for that ‘planned for long but never materialized wala vacation’ comes the pre-planned emotional blackmailing part from parents to settle down in life and they are ever so waiting to see your unborn children and they have already registered your name at some matrimonial website and are pleading with you day in and day out to atleast take a glance at those equally pressurized girls and boys whom they have shortlisted for you. Finally you give in and take the plunge of being hooked for eternity.
Happy moods, all going well in life. New marriage, new wife, new husband, romance in the air, stolen hugs and kisses, unlimited sex happening. Life like a fairytale and viola a year passes by. You’re just sinking into the bliss of everything going great and feeling blessed by the way things are around you when suddenly the pressure of, ‘when are you giving us the good news?’ start building up in your parents talk and some dialogues of nosy relatives. And sometimes the horror of not giving them their grandkids in the normal stipulated time of marital consummation finally makes them ask, ‘is everything OK between both of you. Have you consulted the doctor. Don’t delay such things’.
Sometimes too much pressure from parents, society, relatives, and the genuine maternal instincts of the woman in question ends up in her pregnancy and the child is born. Once again everyone happy, pampering in full swing goes on with a silent war brewing up between the mother in law and daughter in- law as who is doing or has done parenting more effectively and perfectly which eventually results in the child becoming a spoilt brat with the son and father in – law watching and ignoring these issues perfectly. Later on, in another some years, another child – planned or unplanned comes along which completes the family picture. Perfect. In all this process the child/children grows and once again the parents face the heat of placing them in the best schools which ask for crazy amounts as donations and school fees which only goes down the drain with the effect being no major change seen in the educational system nor any substantial change in the kids either. All of them still behave obnoxiously in class with no specific efforts taken by the teachers to uplift the child/children’s hidden talents with emphasis given only to complete useless homeworks and projects which is not even looked into and not to forget the never ending series of exams which creates a volatile situation at home and a cross border like scene and any trespasser will be prosecuted then and there.
This cycle goes on for many more years till the child/children reaches adulthood and oh, then too it doesn’t stop there. Then you take the place of your parents and spoiling it further for your kids.
In all this, somewhere we have lost the essence of living our lives the way we want. To laugh away without any inhibitions, to be stress free, to pursue some hobby we were passionate about or to sometimes just sit, relax and breathe forgetting every damn responsibility in this whole wide world that we are committed to.
But thanks to some social media sites like Instagram, WordPress, YouTube, we are fulfilling our dreams to an extent. By buying that DSLR camera or that mobile with the best camera and clicking photographs and posting on Instagram we are showing the world our fascination and love for beautiful things, places, people and an obsession for photography.
Posting our thoughts and writing it out here on this site is a great way of bringing out the writer in us or our love for writing which was dormant all these years or just an undiscovered talent in us that was choking inside us and was looking out for a platform to be expressed. Let it be poems, thoughts, posts, anything for that matter, finally it’s all about you. It’s an extension of your personality and the happiness, satisfaction and joy it brings to you is most important and that shouldn’t die an untimely death. One needs to keep reviving their passions. You need to do it for yourself. Forget about if anyone would read or see your work. Do it for yourself and if anyone appreciates it, thank them wholeheartedly.
Be selfish, live a bit for yourself. Do things that makes you happy even though others might think it’s a waste of time. Finally it’s your peace of mind that matters.
Fall in love, paint a picture, take a goofy selfie, record a song, learn an instrument, try out a new recipe, buy yourself a pet, laugh your heart out watching silly videos, read something good every day, take a walk outside, do ANYTHING but try to keep yourself happy.
Everyone cannot afford vacations everytime when one feels to run away from everything but the above things can be done.
Pick your fun thing and do it.